How to talk doctor into tubal ligation?
Hi. I am 26 years old and 38 weeks pregnant.
I already have a 3 and a half year old son.
I am 1 million percent sure that I do not want anymore children in the future. Pregnancy is just not for me. Plus I will always be high risk so it is just too stressful. I also suffer from depression from time to time. I have expressed all of this to my doctors(Kaiser) and they will not do it. Their excuses are because of my age, and because the divorce rate is so high. I do not want to take birth control because it has terrible side effects in me like weight gain and hair loss and I plan on going back to work after the baby so this is not an option for me!! What other arguments can I give to make them give me the operation? And if they still refuse what other options do I have? Should I just see a non Kaiser doctor? Does anyone know the price of tubal ligation?
Why is there such a negative perception of responsible adults who try to have some educated input into their..?
…prescribed medications?
I ask this as a 32 year old mother of a toddler, who has been dealing with serious back problems for over 13 years now (stemming from my 6 years in the Army). I have been to every type of medical and alternative type of professional out there and so far the pain only increases. Now it’s one thing to go from being a fully functioning, high level achiever to someone who is “disabled,” but add to that the responsibilities of single motherhood and all I want is to be the best mom I can for my daughter.
Over the past 8 years or so I have educated myself tremendously about the various medications and treatments I’ve been prescribed and those available. Unfortunately my only medical care is through the VA hospital so I am limited in my options. Over the 13 years of this ordeal thus far, doctors have prescribed probably 50-75 different types of medications and combinations thereof to try and treat my pain level. As of August 2007 (when I found out unexpectedly that I was pregnant) I was on 160 mg of Oxycontin plus about 8 Percocet, plus Valium, muscle relaxers, and two different types of depression medications – all just naturally prescribed by my doctors (not at my request, but without my objection). When I found out I was pregnant my pain management doctor actually told me it was OK to stay on all that medication and my baby would “just have to detox” after birth! I said no way in hell and I began to taper down my meds on my own, which I did incorrectly at first until I found another doctor that agreed with me about detoxing myself over the course of the pregnancy. By the time my daughter was born (perfect and healthy) I was down to 20 mg of oxycontin/day, one anti-depressant (although not the best treatment for my issue but best for my daughter while growing inside of me) and a very mild anti-anxiety med once in a while for severe attacks. I stayed at that level for 6 more months while breastfeeding then my doctor wanted to start increasing my pain meds again. I was in tremendous pain and was OK with increasing at that point. About 3 months ago I was up to 80 mg Oxycontin again and finally I decided it was enough and I requested to be tapered off the meds again since they weren’t really helping my pain level much anyway. OK, I realize this is long but I feel I need to give a little background, please bear with me.









