Ive not been well with my third pregnancy and have decided on a termination. Is this justifiable?
Ive been so ill with my third pregnancy and found my depression has returned and also the anxiety attacks I suffered after the death of my sister. Its been a hard decision but I feel so ill and weak and often cant get out of bed. Is this a justifiable reason for a termination? Everyone I have spoken to thinks I am thinking for the right reasons. Also as I have been on anxiety and depressant medication, no health professionals can guarantee there wont be any harm done to the child which is another of my reasons.
So to those of you who think I have no RIGHT to abort a child. Shall I call you all up when I have a sick disabled child who cant walk or talk? Dont say I should have used contraception either as my depression and anxiety was a lot better before I got pregnant. I think those of you who are anti abortion are selfish and fear your own feelings above that of a child that could potentially be born disabled or born in the wrong circumstances!
Im sure half of you cant read properly. ADOPTION????? I am sick during pregnancy why would I consider adoption once its all over. We wanted this child in the first place and Ive searched high and low for answers to medication and NO ONE can give me any. Think about the child being brought into this world with a mother who cannot bond with it due to post natal depression????? SELFISH ALL OF YOU ANTI ABORTIONISTS. Im not doubting my decision by asking you this, I just wanted to see what opinions there were out there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Have many of you actually had depression and anxiety so severe that you cant get out of your room? Think of it this way, I have two lovely boys who will suffer if I continue to be ill. We wanted this child from the start but need to think of my health and how my family are suffering. Those of you who think aborting a child hurts it. Do you remember being in the womb then????? You obviously have never been in this situation and I think I am thinking of the child life, and any potential downfalls before they happen.
Ok well this is the part I chose to leave out because I didnt feel it right to mention but now I have seen such awful judging remarks I will tell all. The death of my sister was actually a murder, she was taken to a back lane and had petrol poured over her and set alight and left to die!! I have suffered since with anxiety due to this yet I am being called a “Murderer” for preventing another life from coming into this sometimes awful world. What did they get for doing this to my sister???? Not very many years thats what. So all of you anti abortionists, think about the evil in this world too before making your nasty remarks and thank you to all who stated that it is my choice.
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How far along are you? Just because you are sick does not give you the right to kill a baby. Sorry, but I just can’t agree with you.
Not to be confrontational, but you asked US what we thought. Just because our answers differ from how you feel does not mean that you have the right to go on attack.
No disrepect whatsoever, but that might not be a subject you want to get started on here! Sorry.
I don’t think this is justifiable at all.
i had three siblings die in a house fire, i also have generalized anxiety disorders and i would never terminate.
i get very sick with my pregnancies and still would not justify terminating.
PS what if you had a pregnacy where none of this was a concern and the baby was still disabled? (this happens you know) not only that, i have taken anti depressants, and had surgery with general anesthesia during pregnancy and no ill effects, and took a ton of pain killers. i don’t think a disabled child is reason to abort either.
in fact… my mom adopted a baby who was perfectly healthy but by the time the process was done he was severly disabled, and we still love him!!!!
this is my opinion.
You shouldn’t be asking people this question because this is YOUR decision. If you feel in your heart that this is the right thing to do, then go with it. You are just going to get beat down by the pro-lifers on here. Good luck to you.
I love how I get 4 thumbs down for being totally honest….geesh.
You do not have to justify it to strangers.
You are about to get flooded with pro-lifers trying to make you feel guilty.
Your decision is what matters.
Please take care.
this sounds like a decision that no one else can decide on but you. do you think you want another child, can you emotionally deal with another child, financially? There are a lot of women who keep their babies for the wrong reasons and then love them when they get here and then the ones who get rid of the babies for reasons they thought were right and then regret the decision later. If you think that the medications you are on will harm your child you need to consult your phycisian or do some research about the effects on unborn children and then go from there.
you should have used protection in the first place if you knew you were not emotionally stable to care for a child!
I don’t think abortion will “lift your spirits”. I think having a new baby would.
If you already knew what you were going to do, why even ask this??? Just to raise a fuss???? Get a life!
No and you know that. If you thought it was the right thing to do you wouldnt be asking strangers to justify your decision.
Noone should judge you for any decision you make. I can definitely understand where you are coming from, but I don’t understand why you feel the need to give up. Depression and anxiety are treatable during pregnancy, I’m one of the many women being treated for anxiety. I have many reasons why I don’t want to get out of bed everyday, but I do, because my child depends on me. Your children depend on you! You need to fight these demons that haunt you and rebuke all these negative thoughts going through your head. Honestly, do you think your sister would want you to abort her neice or nephew on her account? She would probably give you a swift kick in the @ss for being so selfish and dwelling on her death. Please reconsider! Hey, if its a girl, you can always name her after your sister. Chin up, get well soon!
Do what is right for you. I have panic disorder, brought on in the beginning of my third pregnancy. I can’t imagine not having my little girl though. There were days that I would stay in bed crying or lock myself in my bathroom because I would be scared to leave. Sometimes I would even get scared of my own husband and kids. I went to several doctors thinking I was insane but all of them just told me it was anxiety and that I would have to just deal with it. I just survived it and got through, there are some anxiety and anti depressants that are safer to use during pregnancy. I will not tell you one way or another what to do but weigh all of your options and try not to make a decision just because you are depressed. You may regret it later when you are feeling better.
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First, you asked us and now it sounds like you may be getting angry because you are not getting the answers that you are looking for. The decision is yours to make. My third was a high risk pregnancy, I was very ill. I could not get out of bed due to my anxiety/depression to the point where I became agoraphobic (I could not leave my house because I was so scared), it was the worst time of my life. I thought about abortion, hurting myself, running away. I blamed the baby and the pregnancy for making me feel that way and I just didn’t want to go through it anymore. Did my children and husband suffer for those 40 weeks? Probably but I wasn’t doing it on purpose. We have all been through scary, stressful, depressing situations. The fact of the matter is if you are still early enough to abort than the drugs should not have an effect on the baby, the same way that someone that was still early in their pregnancy may drink because they did not even know they were pregnant. You can switch to Zoloft or other antidepressents which are a lot safer for the baby. Even if you could not switch it does not mean the baby will become disabled, it is just more of a possibility than people who are not on the meds. There are millions of depressed/anxious people on medication who have children. There are schizophrenics on meds that are given the okay to have children. Just because you are depressed now does not mean that you will not overcome it after the pregnancy when your hormones are more stable, I know that I did. I am not even on medication and I am dealing just fine with the baby. I went to therapy to insure that I did not suffer any severe depression afterwards, it was one of my biggest fears that I would continue to blame the baby after she was born (I didn’t). If you don’t want to go through with it, that is your choice but don’t get upset when you don’t get the answers that you want. Many people deal with the same things or worse and have children. I am definitely not anti-abortion but as I said before you may regret doing it after you are feeling better and for me I can’t imagine not having my little girl just because I was going through a rough time and was very sick.
very selfish, you think you are depressed now, killing your child will put you over the edge, get to a physiologist, you are looking for approval, you wont get it from me, you must be having doubts if you are asking the question, there are no guarantees with any child, and there are safe meds you can take, you are the mother of two, look at them, how could you live with yourself if you did this, especially since you seem fragile already, get some help, do it for your children all three of them, i am sorry you are having a hard time but don’t take the easy way out, it will cause a lot more pain later on
if it was me..no.. but you are your own person no one can tell you if its right or not.
Personally: No this is not justifiable….IF you think that you can not handle this child I would consider giving it up for adoption…….Abortion is somthing i am against….I feel that there are too many parents out there that want a baby and can not have one…….the only way for them to get one is adoption…….
BUT that being said…i can not go to your home and force you to have this child……i would just hope that you choose life instead of …..
I don’t have any right to make the decision for you, so I won’t say one way or the other. However, if you are asking complete strangers for support of a decision, do you think you are really sure it is the right one? There are support services that help you make these sorts of decisions that may be better suited to help you.
I have to say I agree with most of these people you should have thought about all of this before you had unprotected sex knowing your mental condition. If you just don’t want to take care of the baby think about adoption.
THERE IS NEVER A JUSTIFIABLE REASON TO KILL A BABY.
Sorry but this question is just asking for trouble. First of all how long are you in your pregnancy. Secondly, if you are asking others then you feel guilty and therefore should not terminate your pregnancy. And thirdly, this should be your decision. Look at your other 2 children and think of how wonderful they make you feel. Could you live without them? There are plenty of other medications out there for depression. Your doctor just hasn’t found the one that works for you. If your doctor isn’t willing to try other medications then see someone else.
I am not sure how far along you are but if you are worried about the medication hurting your baby, then maybe you should consult a high risk OBGYN. They can also do level 2 ultrasounds to see that the baby is developing properly. The decision has to be yours but you also need to live with your decision after it is made and will that guilt be too much for you to handle? Take a little more time to think it out! Most importantly you need to do what is best for you. It seems as if your decision making ability is not at its highest potential.
i might be miscarrying and i am sooo sad and want a baby so bad ppl like you are so lucky….. but crazy too
You seem to have the mistaken idea that if you terminate, you will feel better and somehow be okay.
That is certainly not necessarily true.
Termination is known to cause post-traumatic stress disorder. You very well may be making yourself much more ill if you terminate. Many women suffer hallucinations, guilt, fear, etc. Lots of women think about the baby that they killed every day for the rest of their lives and live with an enormous amount of regret.
With symptoms caused by pregnancy, there is a definite start and end. With emotional side effects to a termination, there is no end.
In opinion, not only is it not justified, it would be a very, very unwise thing to do for someone already having emotional difficulties.
Continue to get medical help. Don’t kill the baby.
If you knew you were mentally unstable to deal with the pregnancy then you should have been on birth control and used protection. Taking the life of a inncoent child just because your sick and depressed isnt going to make you feel any better. Alot of women who get abortions who have depression seem to be 10x’s more depressed after the abortion. And look at it this way the baby is a gift from GOD that alot of women cant recieve. Your one of the lucky ones! Dont take that for granted. Why is it all im starting to see on here is abortions questions. Makes no sense.
*****For the record I am far from freakin selfish. I was raped twice and wound up pregnant both time and guess mother freakin wut I kept my babies. It’s not my roll or anyone else’s to attempt to play god at all. I really do think that your selfish for wanting to abort an innocent child beacuase ur sick oh well get ova it. Should have thought about that before you laid on ur back and spread your freaking legs! HOW’S THAT FOR SELFISH!!!*****
I can’t say I agree with you.
Its been hard for you. but thats a person in you. please give life a chance. pregnancy wont last forever but you will knoww forever that you terminated. please think carefully before you do anything. and it is your choice. All the very best. I hope you are happy with whatever you decide. If I could think of magic words that would make you keep this baby i would say them my lovely. xxxx
I am not trying to be mean but in my opinion if you couldn’t handle another pregnancy then you shouldn’t have gotten pregnant. There are ways to prevent it, and I have had a great deal of problems myself and I have not once considered terminating this pregnancy. God never deals you more than you can take.
I honestly think that HAVING a child would make you feel better. Like one person said on here would your sister want you to do that? I think she has a good point.
But it’s your decision, Cheer up!!!
I think if you’re depressed and anxious, I DON’T think you’re thinking for the right reasons. The medicines could cloud your judgment too.
I was taking two Class C drugs during both my pregnancies, and my kids are perfectly healthy and “normal” in every way. What’s wrong with a disabled child? They need love, too…
If you have to talk this over with friends/family (and people on the internet), then obviously there’s some doubt in your mind as to whether you’re doing the right thing. What does that tell you?
Justifiable means capable of being overlooked. Can a killing unborn baby be overlooked? Is this what you are asking.No matter how “nicely” you put the words they still are ugly and awful. The word terminate means :The termination of life or existence; death,which in turn is the same thing as killing, and as far as those others that like to answer this question with “you’ll get all those pro-lifers out there all against you” you are correct. And shame on the whole lot of you that concider this as the correct way to treat a human life-that is murder,cold blood murder of someone who is so innocent. Children are a girft from God not something that perchance happens. My mom almost died giving birth to my brother, she was really, really sick throught the whole pregnancy. She survived.
It is not the most fun thing in the world to be sick all through a pregnancy but usually that means that your baby is really healthy! Talk to your doctors about your depression-it seems to me if you are depressed right now you should not be making any choices like this. I’m sure that there are herbal ways to treat your depression. You also might want to seek someone to talk to you that will not take sides. Getting all your sadness out might help lift your spirits.
You should be excited-another life is growing inside of you. You are going to have a wonderful baby!!! I wish it was me-we’ve been trying for about half a year and no go. No matter how sick I would surely keep this baby!! Please do not kill this baby!
IT is not our feelings that we are protecting-mark my words all those who kill babies in the womb or out of the womb will have to stand before God one day and be held accountable for what they have done-MURDER!!
One of my friends had a baby and he is almost complety brain dead and she could not be any happier with her wonderful child. She just sent me an invite to his first birthday. She sees this child as an oppurtunity to reach others for the Lord. Yes, it is hard for her and she has nurses around the clock but she would not change it for the world!!! She actually is due to have her second baby this month. How about that for a mother who stood for what is right and she shall reap joy all the days of her earthly life, not to mention when she goes to heaven I can see Jesus telling her “well, done my good and faithful servant”.
Added:You have two boys that will suffer if you continue to be this ill? And so the answer is to kill the baby-then one day you can tell your children I loved you so much that I killed your baby brother or sister. And do you think that they will look at you and say-I am so glad that you made this choice, you have made me a better person from this, and I’m glad that you did not kill me?. I’ll tell you what your family will suffer after you murder this baby. A baby begins at conception-not when it takes its first breath. It is murder no matter if you take a morning after pill or have an “abortionist” aka a co-conspiritor-murderer pour acid on your unborn baby. Shame on you for getting upset with pro-lifers for telling the truth you asked the question and now you get all your answers.
As far as your depression goes-it has already cause struggle in your family to begin with, having a baby will not change it one way or another. I could not imagine looking into my precious childs face to tell them that I choose to kill there baby brother or sister just for them. I think that I would be thanking God that you did not kill me. You also said that you wanted this child, so because you are sick your gonna kill it? BOY I REALLY WISH I WAS YOU, I WANT ANOTHER SO BADLY-LIKE I SAID BEFORE EVEN IF I WAS TOO SICK TO GET UP I WOULD NOT KILL THE POOR CHILD. And how do you know that noone has ever know this pain? Do you know everything?
****I am sorry for your loss this sounds very difficult, but my answer does not change! You are double talking-you want the baby and then you don’t-I do not understand do you or do you not? Here is another question so should you get rid of your other children since this is such a bad world? Why would you want them to live? I hope your answer is that you think that your children should live. Because they should and so should your child. Maybe the one that is growning inside of you is the one that will put a lot of those bad people behind bars!!!!And yet they do not get the chance because you are protecting them from what they might grow up to protect others from. You should have a desire to raise children up to better the society that we live in. Should everyone stop having children? Well, that would take care of the problem wouldn’t it-then everyone would die and there would no longer be any bad people on earth. You know what those bad people need? They need to come to know the Lord as there personal Savior. Only he can cleans our sins-because he is the one who died on the cross for us-Mary had him in a sinful world also. And he died as a martyr. But, Mary did not wake up and say oh, the world is full of sinners and I know that my child is to die to take the sin of the world away but I would rather him not go through that so I’ll just terminate him. Then we all would not have someone who died to take away our sins. I am not trying to sound harsh as apparantly you think I am being, but some people need to be upfront with you. This is a serious thing it is not just trash that you are throwing away. Not to mention you were saying that you wanted the child.
My answer to all your pros and cons in your life is: Do you know the Lord as your personal Savior-because he is the one that gives us joy in our lives no matter what has happened. Stephen in the Bible was stoned to death, he had done nothing wrong and yet it happend. The Lord will give you peace over all this. You may be skeptical but this is the truth!!!! The Lord is the answer to all your problems!! I promise-trust in Him.
This passage talks about the judgement seat of Christ to which all people and nations shall be judged. See what God says about the things we do on this earth.
Mat 25:34 Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world:
Mat 25:35 For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in:
Mat 25:36 Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me.
Mat 25:37 Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink?
Mat 25:38 When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee?
Mat 25:39 Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee?
Mat 25:40 And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.
Mat 25:41 Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:
Mat 25:42 For I was an hungred, and ye gave me no meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me no drink:
Mat 25:43 I was a stranger, and ye took me not in: naked, and ye clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and ye visited me not.
Mat 25:44 Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee?
Mat 25:45 Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me.
Mat 25:46 And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.
This baby needs to be taken care of-to be feed-to be clothed-to be taken in and loved no matter the circumstances.What you do with this child you are doing onto the Lord.
That man who murdered your sister will be judged also and if found unsaved will be thrown into the lake of fire to live forever. Then same can happen to you if you do not realize that you are a sinner and that Jesus died on the cross for you to save you from death and punishment for sin. You just need to do as this verse states
Acts 2:21b: whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved.
And Romans 10:9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
Jesus is the real joy giver. You need to take a breath and let go of your troubles-this child does not replace your sister but he/she can grow up to bless the world and be a “good guy”. Instead of all these bad people having there children grow up to be like them-then they will take over the world.
God commands us to be fruitful and multipy, and I am sure you have heard of the 10 commandments do you remember the one that says:
Deuteronomy 5:17 Thou shalt not kill.
Keep in mind also in 1 Peter 5:7-
1Pe 5:6 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:
1Pe 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
1Pe 5:8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:
1Pe 5:9 Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.
1Pe 5:10 But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.
1Pe 5:11 To him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen.
God promises his saved people that though Satan think he is in control God will win the battle in the end. What happened to your sister was the work of the Devil but don’t let him get satisfaction with this-stand up and confess your sins ask Jesus to come into your heart-forgive this evil man that killed your sister, Rejoice in the fact that you are having a new baby. And live each day to the glory of the Lord,that your joy may be full. Trust Me!!! God and God alone is the answer to your problem. Your problem is not this baby-it is that you can’t forgive this evil,evil man(It is not easy-my uncle was murdered by fiance)and right now you are unknowingly giving satan satisfaction that you are having depressive and anxiety problems. Don’t give this murderer any satisfaction that he has ruined your life and that he is helping you make this desision to destroy your family life and your future babies life. If I was on here for two points like most of these people are, I would not still be continuing this “discussion” with you through the answer board. I don’t care about two points I care about your soul and your baby and even when you feel like everyone has left you out to dry-I don’t know you but I love you like a sister. I want you to make the right choice. One that you can stand before the Lord one day and he can tell you that you were wise, and you made a wise choice. Just take out your Bible and read in the chapter called Psalms-David went through a lot in his lifetime-his father-in-law was trying to kill him-his Psalms that the Lord allowed him to write might help calm your spirit and soothe your soul.
Seriously, if you need anything just email me-I am there for you-I promise!!!!!!
i’m fully pro-choice… COMPLETELY!!!! PRO-EFFING-CHOICE!!!! SO GIVE ME A MILLION THUMBS DOWN FOR IT, PRO-LIFERS!!!! do it.
i think if you feel that it’s the right thing to do, then don’t doubt yourself… it’s much better to do this now than to wait and regret it later on. at least in early pregnancy, the baby is really small… it’s not even a baby yet, still an embryo, so it’s not like they’re going to pull a 7-month developed fetus out of you and you have to look at a dead baby, you know? if the kid is going to suffer, why not just avoid it all together. the baby will come into the world when it is time… born into a better life! you’re saving it… and yourself. there’s no point in raising a kid who is convinced that they were a mistake and live with guilt because their mother has depression problems. i think it is quite justifiable…
don’t listen to the bible-thumpers… they have never been in your shoes. you are you. you can make your own decisions and nobody is to blame for accidents… at least you tried, you know?
After reading your question and then the additional details, I’ve decided that your probably not really even pregnant. Most people who are as PRO abortion in questions are not really dealing with the emotional roller coaster of a woman considering abortion.
So, my advice to you is to get a life and stop trying to cause controversy. Seriously, you need counseling….or actually psyciatric help because you probably need drugs to deal with your mental problems.
No, it’s not justifiable. What you need to do is talk to both an OB/GYN and a psychiatrist, and explain the full situation. They’ll be able to help you manage your attacks and prevent harm from coming to your baby.
I have two disabled (adopted) children, so trust me when I say that they’d rather be alive and disabled than not be alive at all. They are both happy, loving children, and they are so glad to be able to do everything that they are able to.
yes you can call me up anytime, send me a e-mail if you like, i would be willing and happy to adopt your child if you feel you are unable to care for he or she if they are disable!!! i believe abortion is wrong, that baby did not choose to be conceive, you made that choice, but , when it seems more of a challenge to go through with the pregnancy , why do we choose to kill the baby. i was sick with my 3rd child were i could not even drink water without getting sick, not to mention in and out the hospital for preterm labor. anxiety attacks, and stress out because my husband was always on the road working, but i made that decision to get pregnant ,so abortion was not a choice. their is people out their with cancer and still choose to Carry their baby to term. you need to find ways to deal with your depression and anxiety , because i guarantee you having an abortion is going make it worst not better!!!
people are just expressing their opinion to you, you ask the question we are giving you are opinion, if you don`t like are responds go pay a psychologist money to answer your question.
LOL@depression, i think i agree with the other lady, your probrably not even pregnant just want to see everyone get mad and upset, if your soooooooo depressed , how come you have the enegry and strength to get on the computer, let alone argue with half the people on here!!, thanks for the 2 points, you really had me going there!!
Sorry I find it strange that you won’t take the continued risk of taking medication which will help you but only “could” cause harm to the unborn child YET because the unborn child is making you feel ill and depressed, you are willing to get rid of it!
I also think that if you are asking if it is “justifiable” that you are in doubt that you would be doing the right thing. Would I be right? You don’t say if you are in the UK or elsewhere but in the UK, in your local phonebook you will find a number for Life, they offer amazing support and advice, time and patience for anything to do with pregnancy and abortion. Give them a call.
I know pregnancy can be a very emotional time and many of us can feel sick for the large part of it and even tired all the way through [not to mention other problems], I just can’t see how the taking of a life will make you feel better though!
You sound to me the type of person who will have regret about the abortion in the future, especially as you seem so emotional and confused about what the right way forward is for you. Please please talk to someone professional before you do anything…..and just because others think you are making the right choice you are the one who has to live with you and you need to know for certain that the choice you make is right for YOU.
I hope I don’t sound too hard. I am pregnant with my third child, unplanned; and subsequently unwanted by the father. I felt sick for the first 14 weeks, then was laid up literally unable to move for 4 weeks with sciatic pain caused by a slipped disc having to be totally dependent on friends and family for support. My mother is no longer alive and my 15 year old son has autism, and I am a single mother. Do my circumstances justify an abortion?
Everyone has struggles in some way or another and I certainly don’t want to make light of your’s, especially the loss of your sister. My friends father is very ill cos he has cancer, I am thankful that all my present pregnancy health problems will only only last 9 months – and are not terminal – and at the end of this I will have a new life to love and nurture, which you could too, if you find some inner strength to persevere.
Take good care and all the best x
You have to do what is right for YOU right now, not what is right for everyone around you.
Pregnancy is physically and emotionally demanding, especially if you are going into it with a pre-existing condition (depression). You cannot properly care for yourself or your other children if you are sick, exhausted, and struggling to maintain balance in your life.There is NOTHING wrong with you exercising your right to choose and choosing to not continue to put yourself through this! If you feel that abortion is the right choice for you, then it IS the right choice for you! Do not let anyone here guilt you into continuing this pregnancy if you do not want to!
I’m sorry that you’re ill but I have to ask, if you want this baby aren’t there alternatives? I mean, medication is one thing but counseling could help with depression and anxiety and once it’s been born you could go on your drugs and just not breast feed. I’d hate to see you terminate when you really did want this child in the first place.
You know how many people suffer from depression and have kids. I do. Where I live a lot of people suffer from depression, Seattle Washington the rain really gets to us. I’m currently pregnant and just lost my love of my life who was going to be my husband. I was messed up, now that I’m pregnant it was easier for me to stop stressin and think about the future.
How far along are you? I am on Effexor and because of bad divorce situation and unplanned pregnancy with a nonparticipating father, my doctor has decided to keep me on it. She is going to try and wean me off during the 3rd trimester.
You don’t need to justify an abortion to anyone.
It’s your body, your life & your choice.