I have been very depressed this pregnancy and cannot have post pardom despression.?

7 Comments

1. bl says:

   April 23, 2010 at 12:23 pm

   You have no way of knowing if you’ll have Post Partum depression.
   However, if you have had it before, it means you are at a bigger risk for having it again.
   If you find the right medication, you will probably be HELPING your two children by taking it.
   Perhaps you could look into a single mother support group?
   Best of luck!
2. That Girl says:

   April 23, 2010 at 12:40 pm

   I have suffered from depression since I was 18. I did it w/o medication for 2 pregnancies. But I reccomend going on something afterward. There is no way to “make sure” you won’t have it. I know probably not what you wanted to hear, but you need to think about what is best for everyone. If you are too depressed to get out of bed then there is no one to take care of the babies. Trust me you will be so glad that you did.
3. jenniw0530 says:

   April 23, 2010 at 1:20 pm

   Are you by chance anemic? My iron has been considerably low throughout my pregnancy, and I have felt drained… almost lathargic. Dr. uped my iron intake about a month ago and I feel like a new person. I understand your not wanting to take meds, but I agree that sometimes it’s best for all involved if you cant rule out some other medical condition. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to be “super mom.” (easier said than done, I know.)
4. lata says:

   April 23, 2010 at 1:37 pm

   you need to seek professional medical help..you have to talk to your doctor and maybe he/she can recommend a therapist you can see so that you don’t have to take medication.
5. imcalledlisa says:

   April 23, 2010 at 1:43 pm

   There’s no sure way to guarantee you won’t get PPD. No one really asks for it, it just happens. If we all knew how to prevent it, it probably wouldn’t be such a common problem.

   It will help though, to have alot of supports set up, people you can talk to or help you out when the new baby arrives.

   Can I ask why you refused medication? It is proven safe to take anti-depressants during pregnancy, if that is your concern. Will you refuse medication after the baby is born? There is nothing shameful about being on anti-depressants, just like a diabetic who needs to take insulin to regulate blood sugar, anti-depressants help regulate your moods and hormones that could be causing them.
6. mountain_laurel1183 says:

   April 23, 2010 at 1:49 pm

   there are a few options if you don’t want to take meds (and a lot of people don’t, and that is fine as long as you are exploring other treatment options and those options work, which you are attempting to do).

   1. Find a support group
   2. Eat nutritiously
   3. Understand that you will have rises and falls in your hormones. Try to get someone “on call” for in case of an emergency where you feel you can’t handle the pressure anymore
   4. Try personal therapy (a family systems therapist is good if you don’t want meds)
   5. Make sure you have some personal time everyday if at all possible, even just 30 minutes where you take a bath or something for yourself to take care of yourself
   6. Exercise
   7. Support support support! Cannot stress that enough.

   Good luck! Depression is no fun, but it can be beaten, with or without meds.
7. Yowdy says:

   April 23, 2010 at 2:19 pm

   You seem to be a worrier. Don’t worry about PPD until the time comes. That might help you feel better immediately.
   On another note: Why in the world would a depressed, single mother choose to have another child? Haven’t you heard of birth control?