I am 4 months pregnant & depressed.I no longer feel good about my pregnancy. I don’t know why? ?
In the start of my pregnancy, it was rough, because it was not expected, and it was hard for my boyfriend to accept. After a few weeks, I was happy about it, and he grew happy too. We went and bought little things here and there. My boyfriend is supportive & now is excited to find out the sex, and is taking part in my prenatal visits, and growing into ‘being a dad’.
Me, on the other hand…..
I have secretly started to feel worse and worse about the pregnancy. I haven’t really told anyone, except mention a little to a close friend. I am filled to the brim with fear and paranoia that because of my past and health issues I will have damaged my child and be a horrible parent… I just feel like everything is a mistake. I feel like I am confused to have my baby. I have thought of abortion, I am pro-choice, but I don’t believe in it for myself. I don’t know how I could live with myself. I have thought of adoption too, but my boyfriend would never agree, and I don’t know how I could live knowing I gave away my kid. I can only imagine how upset my family would be. My family is so happy I am pregnant!
I have done everything right, take my prenatals, go to my visits, eat right, keep informed, stopped cold turkey smoking, drinking and smoking weed, even though it was medical. I changed all my skin care and hair products and house cleaning products to safe organic stuff. I was obsessed with doing everything so perfect and healthy. I felt so happy to ‘be a mom’
I have suffered from depression all my life, on and off and have been on various medications on and off. I also suffer from seasonal depression as well, and some years I took anti-depressants through the fall and winter months . (I had wanted to try the light therapy, but all the side effects are things I already suffer from and to risk having more migraines, nausea, sleeping problems wasn’t worth it to me! + they can be costly)
I have not been taking medication for a while now, and was doing well. I’ve been reading different self help books & I had been going to a therapist & I thought it helped, but it has not I guess. I know some medications are supposedly ‘safe’ for pregnancy, but I don’t want to go that route, I don’t buy it, and do not even like taking the medication for myself in the first place.
Each day is harder. I don’t have any fun when I do anything, I can’t get out of bed. Sometimes I can’t bring myself to even work. Sometimes I sleep 18 hours a day.Sometimes I can’t sleep. I think about dieing, but I know I would never do it, because I really want to Iive, enjoy life and be a Mom! I feel ashamed to feel this way when so many others would be happy to in my shoes. I don’t know what to do….if therapy, reading, and medication isn’t working or not good for me, what am I supposed to do? Is this semi-normal/hormonal thing? Will it just pass?
I just want to be feel happy and bring my baby into the world wanted- with a happy mom.
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i think your just worrying excessively due to hormones. what you need to remember is that unless you go to work and stay happy you wont be. you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. just remember that everything will be fine and just start preparing for your new life with your baby. you have support so there isnt a reason you should feel bad. just think happy thoughts and everything will be fine. good luck <3
I’ve never had a baby personally…but apparently depression is semi-normal. Also, what was the medical reason for the weed? If it had something to do with depression, then that could be an issue as well since you had to stop cold turkey, along with the drinking and smoking. Going cold turkey might have a huge effect.
I’m sure you’re all kinds of confused! You’re not used to not being able to go out with your friends and partying and what not.
I’m sure it’ll pass. Talk to your closefriends and family about it. Keep your boyfriend updated as well, tell him you need him to help you out as much as possible!! That’s what he’s there for!!
I wish you the best, email me if you need to talk.
When your pregnant your hormones change. I’ve been pregnant 3 times and each pregnancy I had different symptoms. With my 1st pregnancy I was mean and very unhappy. I was also confused. I wasn’t happy being pregnant. I didn’t want to have the baby but my husband was excited. But after I had my son everything changed. I was very happy. And I became a very good mom. So I wouldn’t worry its just the pregnancy blues.
Please see your doctor about this. This is very serious, after delievery this may turn into post partum depression. There is help for you. It may also be your hormones too. visit this website…..http://www.babycenter.com/0_depression-during-pregnancy_9179.bc Good luck, and I hope you will be ok.
I am sorry, you are having a hard time. This is not fun.
Can you go to the doctor, they will have something mild to help you?
And if what are you taking is not helping, go to different doctor.
Sometimes we all get depressed in pregnancies, but not for longer time.
Good luck to you.
Be cheered the pregnancy has an end. Afterward you may feel even more depressed a few weeks. Then it will ease off and in time you will again experience the best of happiness you have ever had.
It sounds like you might be gooing through pre-natal depression. It is not as common as post-natal depression but does exist.
It is important you see someone about this. It is fairly normal to have fears and anxiety about whether you can be a good mom and how you are going to cope and how your life is going to change but what you seem to be describing is something more serious than normal hormonal induced fears.
Also given your history with depression I would say you really should go see someone about this. You have made the first step by realising that what you feel is not normal and now you just need to get the help for it
Good luck to you. many women have come through this and so can you!
there are some women that go into depression.. severly, you could find out from your doc. if there is something that you can take for depression that won’t hurt your baby. ….. i was told when i was depressed to do Light Therapy…. sitting in the sun, or sunlight…. sitting by lights, … hope this helps.( i forgot the side-effects) but would a few of those be better than what you are feeling now? i am sorry you feel so crappy. don’t be ashamed it is normal. it happens to a lot of pregnant women, you are not the only one. you are just upset cuz you feel left out because you are pregnant, this is normal, you should find someone who will make you happy…. to spend a few hours with you. just to laugh or watch a comedy movie… or comedians.. anything that would possibly make you laugh. i know you are just paranoid about how things are going to end up, but you are doing such a great job! Seriously that is a lot more than i can say about half the women who are pregnant… you are doing wonderful! Don’t feel like a bad person, your pregnancy is making you depressed…..makes me wonder how i am going to act with being pregnant and depression…. i am the same way. i am sorry, you should look on the bright side though, there are a lot of women out there who try to get pregnant and can’t you are one of the lucky few who did get pregnant. and your baby is going to be just fine, you are going to be a great mother, you already are.. seriously, i am proud of you and i don’t even know you. your doing great.
I JUST posted a question like this. I feel the exact same way. I was so happy to find out about the baby, but now I’m just over a month along..about 7 weeks, and I feel like I’ve made the worst mistake of my life.
I have an appointment with my doctor on Tuesday, and I’m going to bring up the topic of antepartum depression. It’s depression caused during pregnancy. Like postpartum, but..the other way around.
It sounds like you might have this, and maybe should do the same thing! Keep me updated, believe me, it would be nice to have someone to talk with!