How to talk doctor into tubal ligation?
Hi. I am 26 years old and 38 weeks pregnant.
I already have a 3 and a half year old son.
I am 1 million percent sure that I do not want anymore children in the future. Pregnancy is just not for me. Plus I will always be high risk so it is just too stressful. I also suffer from depression from time to time. I have expressed all of this to my doctors(Kaiser) and they will not do it. Their excuses are because of my age, and because the divorce rate is so high. I do not want to take birth control because it has terrible side effects in me like weight gain and hair loss and I plan on going back to work after the baby so this is not an option for me!! What other arguments can I give to make them give me the operation? And if they still refuse what other options do I have? Should I just see a non Kaiser doctor? Does anyone know the price of tubal ligation?
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Tubal ligation is very expensive. It is surgery and involves hosptial stay etc.
A vasectomy is much easier. I would suggest talking your hubby into that. It costs less than $800 usually and he can be back to work in a few days. Also most vasectomies can be done in the doctor’s office and he goes home afterwards. Very simple. Tubal ligation, not so simple, you have the surgery then recovery time and all the costs invovled I don’t understand why husband’s would let their wives go through that when the sterilization for them is so easy.
Most tubals are covered by insurance, and given your history, I cant see the dr. saying no..have you asked yet? However, most states require a 30 day waiting period after consent, I would look into this asap!
I suggest you find a new doctor. Your age shouldn’t matter. I had my tubes tied after my second child was born and I was only 21 years old and I had never been married. I told my doctor that I was going to work for the rest of my life to support the two I already had there was no way that I could take a chance on having another one. Even though the relationship with my children’s father didn’t work out and I have moved on to a committed relationship with someone else there has not been one day that I have regretted my decision. The bottom line is in this case it was my decision to make and not my doctor’s.
get an IUD, it’s actually more effective than having your tubes tied!
Your doctor is just trying to protect you, but should not be refusing to perform the procedure. I also agree that a vasectomy is a safer option for all involved… even with a tubal ligation you can still end up with tubal pregnancies and need repeated surgeries to remove them.
My mum was also refused to have her tubes tied the second time round so she did one better, she was sure she would never want to have children again so she went to the doctors month after month pretending to have heavy unmanageble periods, she tol them she was flooding her towel every hour atleast, was stuck up in bed whilst she was on her period and a few months in the doc offered her a full hysterectomy to which she gladly jumped at….. no more birth control and no periods for her,,,, where theres a will theres a way!
your age should not be an issue and they should respect your wish tell them that ou will go to another doctor and get it done either way and they should side with you.
Kaiser sucks. It always has. Since this means that you are in California, I would check with the local hospital about getting the procedure done, any grants that they may have out there for a mom of more than one child, and payment options. I am sure that part of their reason of saying no is the depression. Try another Kaiser doctor in the area. State your concerns. If that doesn’t work, talk to your insurance company. You also might want to find out about changing your insurance plan. I know that I have seen a few people get new insurance that would cover them for outside Drs and then waiting the waiting period (since you have prior insurance, they may not have a waiting period) and then got the procedure and then a month after, cancel the insurance. Couldn’t hurt to look into that.
well age should not be a factor , i think your doctor is pushing his own personal beliefs on you, i would find another doctor, if you can find one outside of kaiser and insurance will still cover it then go for it. The only other option i can think of is the new non-hormonal copper birth control which a doctor inserts into your uterus (and can be done at your 6 week postpartum visit) and it stays in place for the year and gets changed every time you go in for your Annual. It has a 98% effectiveness rate and no side effects since there are no hormones. unfortunately i cannot remember the name. But i really do think it is your right to tell the doctor yoou do not want any more children regardless of your age, find a doctor who will respect your decision
You can’t talk a Physcian into tying your Tubes or other wise
Tying Tubes is not as serious,because the Physcian can tye
through a scope,But! the tubes can be reversed.
this Tubeligation
your talking about is a serious OPERATION. and is permanent.
and further more both you and your significant other has to be on the same page. Get my Drift? There are other alternatives to Birth Control.
I don’t know what Kaiser is… But it’s your choice and your body… An IUD is a great alternitive… It is good for 5 years… It doesn’t hurt… and you don’t have to worry about it… I agree with you tho Your doctor should not be telling you no… It’s your body… and age shouldn’t be a factor…
After I had my second child,my first was only 25months older. I didn’t want any more children, and neither did my husband. He was going to have a vascectomy but never did. 10years later (I was 33 at the time) I wanted another child and our youngest daughter told him that she wanted to be a big sister and we had another daughter.Believe me, I’m really glad that neither one of us got (fixed).But, that’s just me, if you truely don’t want any more children, just wait a little while and then go to another doctor and get your tubes tied, burned whatever. You really might change your mind years from now , like I did.
nothing is guarantee in life, this is your second child and your 26 , you should be able to do it, but i think the Doctor just wants to make sure that your making the right decision, My friend had her tubes tied at 22 years old and now at the age 28 and a new man in her life she regrets making that decision. I say wait till the baby born and if you still; fill that way after wards then, go and get it done. I said i would do my tubes at 26 also, but after i held my son i decided that we should a least have one more then will be down. I also told my husband since i did all the hard work of caring and delivering his children, maybe he should get sterilize not me!
I don’t know anything about Kaiser, but I would find another doctor. Yes you are young, but doctors seem to think that the younger a woman is that she doesn’t know what she wants or that she will change her mind later on. It sounds like you are sure that you are done so I would find a doctor who will respect your decision and do what you are asking.