Does anyone understand this?
I am 21, just got hired for a $7 an hour job (almost finished with vet tech college studies)… but I have this terrible urge to have a baby. Almost every girl I went to high school with has/will be a mom recently. I can’t help but be jealous, or is it hormonal? I feel this way mainly before my period starts.
I am not trying to get pregnant (*I didn’t know where else to post this*)… My gyno has said I am at a high risk for miscarriage (and in the summer I went through one, not sure if it was the antibiotics I was on, or the mess up of skipping pills while I was terribly sick and vomited everything back up — including my non-dissolved pills and water), as well as pregnancy complications.
I cannot help but continue wanting it though. Is this normal? Is this normal for my age (since every girl I know already is)? Would anyone know what is the core for this reason?? This “clock” is ticking way too early…. and I KNOW it would be a terrible idea, with the lack of good money and insurance, as well as health problems I would face.. as well as mental issues like anxiety, depression, and bipolar disorder (not on any meds for that, I got sick of the side effects and basically being played around on them).
I also feel angry that all the “party girls” I know are getting pregnant and having babies.. It makes me wonder WHY they can have a child so easy, but people like me out there would have to go through so much to actually get pregnant, and more, to give birth (or c-section since that was most advised for me).
This may seem like more of a public rant than a question, but I really just want to know that I am not alone.. I will not stop taking my pills, but every 3 months (I am on Seasonique) I have this god awful “I MUST GET PREGNANT NOW” feeling before I start my scheduled bleeding….. I also feel very distressed and depressed during my period… but I also suffer from dysmenorrhea.. so my mood could be effected by the extreme pain I’m in during this time as well.
Someone please tell me its normal, and that I’m not alone (nor crazy, lol). I take my pills religiously, but my husband is getting kind of worried with all the baby talk coming out of me (his job doesn’t pay much better than mine)… I know 14 currently pregnant women right now, 4 are friends (which also means a lot of buying baby items)… these women don’t include the women I’m friends with that have already given birth! I just wonder when, or if, our time will come… and how to just “ignore” this motherly craving until then.
My husband & I do have adoption as an option 
Right now I adopt and re-home stray animals, so I completely understand it. His nearly 3 year old sister is adopted as well. We at least want 1 that is our genetics, and adopt any others sometime in our future.
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Oh, sweetie, I wish I could give you a hug. This is TOTALLY normal and directly linked with hormonal release during PMS.
You might be surprised to find out that many of the “party girls” getting pregnant are not as over-joyed at their situation as you think. Also, keep in mind that they no longer have the option to be “party girls.” They have much more serious commitments, now.
You are right to realize that you are not ready for a child. You will know when you are ready and hopefully you will have a loving, caring partner for support. Being a single-parent is a tough job, especially when you are young and struggling.
In the meantime, be happy for those around you. The feeling will come naturally for those who are your friends and they will feel the same way for you when your time comes. And don’t worry about your ability to conceive until it’s time. If it doesn’t happen “naturally,” there are numerous medical procedures and “assistance” to get the process started. And please don’t ever forget about adoption–there a so many children out there waiting for someone who wants them, like you!
Good luck and good health!
everyone always says as soon as you stop trying to get pregnant and u stop thinking & obsessing about being pregnant that’s when it happens. just take a chill pill[[not literally lol]] and enjoy the baby-making process instead of constantly thinking about it. it’ll happen when your body is ready. you might feel the need to have a baby bc you lost one. ur heart probably has a hole in it where that baby should be and your trying to fill that hole with another baby. just relax and enjoy college for now. get a hobby or something..you’ll get your baby eventually! =]