My husband and I went through a very bad year, and we moved to atlanta for jobs that my sister helped us to get in door. My husband had been unemployed for an extended period of time- limited to no income for 3 years. I had been laid off and underwent treatment for cancer. Between my health and what I see as his struggle with depression we were beyond the boiling point- rock bottom. Moving, a steady income, and a fresh start seemed to be what we needed. Its not that it was perfect over night,but it was moving in the right direction. We were going to move into our own place next week., we have been going ou and there was passion and tenderness. . We are both well educated and though new at our jobs, earn a good joint income right now and have started to rebuild our savings. The night before last he assured me that he loved me and really wanted to be married to me and grow old together… Then yesterday I told him I was pregnant and he told me he wasn’t sure if he really loved me, and wanted me to have an abortion. He basically accused me of trying to trap him with a pregnancy or acted like it was deliberate.I had been told that due to endometriosis and the treatments I had gone through for cancer, it was unlikely that I would conceive with out assistance. We used contraceptives every time we were intimate despite what the doctors told me. We did have broken condemn and I did get pregnant. It is a shock to me too, not some plot. I am afraid of raising a child alone, or bringing a child into the world who isnt wanted by its father. I am afraid of losing my husband, and know men aren’t lining up to step in and date a women with a baby or even a young kid. My heart is broken to hear that my husband doesn’t know if he loves me because despite it all I love him, and that he wants to abort the baby. I am here in a new city with no one to talk to and I don’t know what to do. I called in sick to work and I dont know what to do.

By PAUL J. WEBER, Associated Press Writer Paul J. Weber, Associated Press Writer – 1 hr 49 mins ago
SAN ANTONIO – The father of a newborn baby who authorities say was mutilated, killed and cannibalized by his mother said Tuesday he wants to see her executed. Scott W. Buchholz told The Associated Press that Otty Sanchez, the mother of 3 1/2-week-old Scotty Wesley Buchholz-Sanchez, seemed fine in the days before the killing, even though they argued.

However, he said she told him she had been diagnosed with postpartum depression and was going to be admitted to a hospital for treatment.

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who believes this mother should face the death penalty… i sure do!
SAN ANTONIO – The father of a newborn baby who authorities say was mutilated, killed and cannibalized by his mother said Tuesday he wants to see her executed. Scott W. Buchholz told The Associated Press that Otty Sanchez, the mother of 3 1/2-week-old Scotty Wesley Buchholz-Sanchez, seemed fine in the days before the killing, even though they argued.

However, he said she told him she had been diagnosed with postpartum depression and was going to be admitted to a hospital for treatment.

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I have a very hard situation that is causing me a lot of pain and anguish. I don’t know what to do and I feel so lost right now. I am a 34 year old man that recently married his girlfriend after only dating for 3 months. We have been married for 2 months now, so we have been together for a total of 5 months. My wife is 25 years old so there is an age gap there. I agree that we did move way too fast and that everyone would tell us this. She is currently 3 months pregnant and the last two months have been pretty much a living nightmare. From the beginning of the relationship, this woman told me that she loved me with all her heart abnd that she had no doubt about the way she felt about me. We even talked about getting married soon. Two months into the relationship , she got pregnant after we had made a promise that we would wait until we got married to consummate our relationship. She did mention several times during the first two months that she did not want to get pregnant. But two weeks after we found out she was pregnant she promised me that she was ok with the pregnancy and she was even happy about it. I am a bipolar man that has did disorder for along time, but just recently came to the acceptance and realization that I am bipolar and now am seeking treatment (medication and therapy). From the beginning of the relationship she noticed that I had episodes of depression and mania and she would even think to herself that I might be bipolar. Three weeks after we find out she was pregnant, she was struck physically so bad that she had to leave work and unable to do anything physically throwing up all the time everything she would eat and nauseated all the time. I immediately started taking care of her like a good husband would and would only leave the house to go to work.. During the last 9 weeks that she has gotten worse and her mood swings (due to the pregnancy) have gotten worse and worse. During all this my bipolar episodes of depression and mania have increased and have acted out on those episodes with her many times throughout the pregnancy. Recently about three weeks ago she told me that she did not feel the same way anymore about me or about us and that the love she felt once for me in November through January was not there anymore. And when she explained that to me I thought that that explained the way she had been with me the last 5 weeks as far as cold, distant, abusive, and even made cruel comments. I have heard horror stories about pregnant women doing some crazy things to their husbands and even feeling like they do not love their husbands anymore as result of uncontrollable hormones, but these are marriages that have been together for years not 4 -5 months. I did also tell her that I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and that started getting treatment for it. She stated that she always knew I had it so it came as no surprise. She mentioned that she was tired of everything and the way I have not been able to handle her hard pregnancy. I did explain to her that her pregnancy, and the way she has changed were triggers that triggered my episodes of depression and irritability but that it wasn’t who I really was and that I was getting help for my disorder but that she would need to be patient with me. I know that I have done everything possible to make her hard pregnancy better by taking care of every possible need that she might have though all this, but she feels that I have not done a good job of handling the pregnancy at all. So now I fear that because of my bipolar disorder I have tired yet another person out of my life. I try to be positive and think that its just her hormones talking or making her feel like this and making her the things she has said and not that she is realizing that she was only infatuated with me at the beginning and now because of what she realizes is wrong with me is not willing to deal with it. When she did tell me that she was no longer in love with me, I did tell her that I was leaving and I gathered all my belongings and left, while I walked downstairs she texted me telling me that I told her I would never leave her no matter what, I came back because of that , because no matter what I love her and I love that child she is going to have. I am so distressed and tired and scared that this woman who I fell in love with is now no longer in love with me, because I have pushed her away due to my episodes of this hated decease

I have an adult daughter, in her early 20′s who I STRONGLY believe has a personality disorder. Without going into a lot of detail, her moods are unpredictable and extreme, generally does not care what she says to others or their reactions, regularly needs reassurance and believes others are persecuting or ‘against’ her, etc. (there are many more symptoms). Adding to my concern, my daughter just had a baby. I do not believe that these issues are a result of the pregnancy or postpartum depression/psychosis, as she exibited the same symptoms for a few years prior to becoming pregnant. I am, however, VERY concerned for her and subsequently her daughter. I have tried both tactfully and directly to get her to seek treatment, but she absolutely refuses. Recently, I tried to get her to go to the ER for a minor issue, just so that I could try to pull the nurse aside and explain why I really took her there, in the hopes that they would provide a psych consult. Of course, my daughter refused to go to the ER tho. I’m at my wits end and need any advice that anyone has. My daughter and granddaugter live with me, so at least I can try to keep an eye on them both, but this cant go on indefinitely and I really have no idea what to do! Any suggestions or even legal advice? BTW, I live in AZ (for legal advice). Thank you so much!

20 yr old pregnant 27 weeks, came to live with us 3 weeks ago. she has nothing. has never worked, never had id. we had to get her ID, birth certificate,social security card, medicaid, food stamps, etc. she is now getting prenatal care. she seems emotionally blank. (no happy, no sad, no upset.. no range) when midwife asked about depression/mental illness treatment she said no never had. I found out she was diagnosed bi polar, stayed in a hospital was medicated, was cutting herself, and had a mental age of 14. she is also hearing impaired and wears 2 hearing aids. I am worried about the baby and the pregnancy as she seems detached, and has nothing. (and she is not worried about anything) how do i go about getting her help and protecting her and the unborn baby? where to start. I worry that when her babies father gets out of jail she will leave and want to be with him (and he has nothing, he is just trouble) I am like an aunt to her, but not actually related.

So we accepr that in order to to save a life of her child it is moral to require a woman to undergo pregnancy, birth, nursing (every 2 hours for 3 months), costs of bringing up a child or pain and depression of giving the child up.

Then, shouldn’t it be moral to require that healthy people to donate blood? I mean what is blood donation compared to pain of childbirth?

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Im 19 (nearly 20) and have been ttc for nearly 3years with zero luck.

my doctor informed me that typically a gynecologist wont treat someone of my age for fertility. The NHS guidelines state that a woman under 23 may have treatment if she has been trying for a long period of time and has a diagnosed reason for infertility.

I am anovulatory, and have very painful heavy erratic cycles. extremely violent mood swings several times a day. and have a lot of painful cramping when i am supposed to ovulate. sometimes its so bad that i cannot leave the house. on one occasion i was huddled over in pain for 6hours unable to move at all. (felt as though my uterus had been torn and that 10,000needles were piercing through it).
My doctor managed to get me referred to the gyno on the basis of my periods and hope that they will treat my fertility at the same time.

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I am now 32 weeks pregnant and have been depressed on and off since about 24 weeks. I will mention it to my gp on my next visit (next week) because I’m getting sick of it. To mums that went through depression, for what reason were you depressed and what kind of treatment did you receive? Did it go away after birth? I am depressed about little stupid things, I feel like I’m a bad person for not doing anything so bad. I’m just a human and I’m not perfect I know that lol but why do I feel guilty about every single mistake I’ve made in past and in present?

With all our medical advances, why is it that the incidence of depression and anxiety is skyrocketing. The World Health Organisation says that depression is the most disabling disease in the Western World today, yet all mental healthcare specialists seem to talk about is “evidence based” treatments such as counselling and anti depressants. Whilst these strategies have been shown to be helpful for some people, if this was really cutting edge advice, why aren’t we seeing the incidence of depression declining or at the very least plateauing. This in no way seeks to imply that medication and psychological counselling don’t have their place in treating depression, just that we are not exploring all the variables

Having interviewed thousands of people who have battled with depression, I am convinced that there are some serious issues with the “evidence based” approach to treating depression. These can be summarised as follows:

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